This week summer came to an end and school started. I am so sad summer is over. This has been the first summer I haven't counted the minutes until they got on the bus! Last week we were on vacation and it looked a little something like this....
Who would want this to end?
Once I get into the swing of this new schedule I will post all my feelings on being the mom of a middle schooler! (Insert sniff sniff here!)
The kids needed and adventure today as I have kept them locked in the house while I try to work so we decided to head off to Costco. Costco is the perfect place to wonder around for hours and they even have free snack while you do it!
We had lunch and wondered up and down every aisle. Exciting right? I know you wish you were me.
Anyway, as we were loading the car up with our haul, I went to put the cart in the cart trolley thingy and noticed a cart in there with purchases still in it. I was parked out of the way so I looked around and there was no one to be seen. Who leaves their purchases in the shopping cart in the cart barn? I mean you have to have pushed it across the parking lot with the stuff in it and then walked away! And then it hit me, I have done that in the past when the kids were screaming, or I was on the phone (I know, I know) or just flat out not paying attention. Hello Mama LaLa land!
I grabbed the kids and we grabbed the cart to push it back into Costco hoping someone would come back and claim their laundry detergent and massive amounts of kleenex. How many people these days would do that? Take time out of their busy day to push it into the store and explain to the manager the details of the cart being full, or how many people would have just grabbed the stuff and thrown in their cars and thought "finders keepers"?
The finders keepers thought never crossed my mind. That might be why I find stuff that belongs to others all the time in parking lots and grocery carts and at baseball, you get the drift. I believe in karma and temptation. Sometimes the carrot is dangled just to see what you will do with it.
Once, when the oldest was a few weeks old, I found a $100 bill on the floor in Petsmart and I turned it into the teenage manager. My husband was so mad at me because he was convinced the manager would keep it so I should have (we needed the money too!). But the truth was, it wasn't mine.
Whether you believe in karma or not, I am a "rule follower" and am just not willing to risk what will happen if the "rule" is broken. I hope they find the lady who bought the stuff and she's smiles knowing someone was looking out for her (or him)
Today I have a horrible, PMS based migraine brewing so some of this might get a little fuzzy and not make much sense but I will try and do my best..
Last night for GNO all the girls in the 'hood headed out for dinner and a movie. Of course this group of crazy women wanted to go see a feel good movie that will leave you with a smile on your face and warmth in our hearts. So that means we viewed Magic Mike!
If you haven't seen it and don't want it spoiled STOP READING THIS RIGHT NOW!
Since this was not touted to be an academy awarding winning film I didn't expect to see dramatic performances or a heart wrenching love story but I did expect more than men looking stupid. Don't get me wrong, they all LOOKED amazing and a few of them (Channing Tatum) can definitely dance but the dialogue was very much lacking. The characters didn't even seem to mesh very well past the three (ok four if you count the sister) main stars so all other conversation was pretty much boring.
Would I have seen the movie had I been warned that it was basically an inside 'look" at the ugly side of male reviews? Well.........
I will leave you with this....the halloween costumes for the neighborhood party will be much more exciting this year!
I cannot believe it has been a year since I last posted on this blog. Wow. That is just crazy!
I could probably sit here and write a list of excuses as the why i haven't posted but no one want to hear all that. So instead of excuses let's just start over. Begin again.
Hi, I am Catherine! I am the mom to three obnoxious fabulous kids, the oldest is 12 and the youngest is 6 with an almost 9 yr old in the middle. When I started this blog I owned a retail embroidery and gift store but now I work out of the house as these children are quite demanding active. How did I work anywhere else for 5 years? That I will never know the answer to!
I have a website and an etsy store and they both keep me very busy. I love designing and creating. I have become addicted to Pinterest (who hasn't?) and keep getting in trouble with the hubby because I spend too much time "brainstorming" on there. BUT, I do have a room with fabulous curtains, pictures on the wall and flowers in the yard all thanks to "brainstorming" on Pinterest. Oh, and plenty of new recipes in the cookbook! That's not all bad right?
I do have to admit I am VERY NERVOUS about school starting this year! Why? Well, my oldest is heading to Middle School! Ahhh! 6th grade here we come! He is totally psyched and cannot wait to have a locker and change classes and all the fun things that come with middle school but I am scared to death! I am sure you will have to listen to me rant about this on here so be forewarned, it wont be pretty. I am going to be a wreck. He is my oldest and I feel like I make all the mistakes and have to learn the hard way with him. Fingers crossed I don't change my mind and lock him in his room and talk myself into homeschooling him! (ok that's definitely not happening!)
So here we ago again blog, let's try and keep up this time!
Today Mini Tahoe #3 is having surgery. It's nothing serious it is just to fix a little problem he has with his boy parts. They told us it will only take about ten minutes and he will be fine to return to school the next day.
Of course, as with any surgery, he cannot eat anything for 12 hours before surgery that are not clear. Then nothing at all for the four hours before the surgery.
Now I know he is only 5 so I am trying to explain all of this to him in a way he understands. I told him that if he eats before he goes to sleep he might throw up on the doctor and she wouldn't like that very much plus his tummy would hurt. His response seriously made me giggle...
"Mommy, they are fixin my penis, not my mouth. That really doesn't make any sense"
I am not sure how much detail I have gone into about each of my kids. As with everyone else, I have three kids with three different personalities, but with that I have gained knowledge and patience on how to help each one of them succeed. I also feel like I can be a resource to friends and family when they too are faced with something I have gone through.
That being said, in the past two weeks I have had the opportunity to help two friends who have boys with ADHD. Now let me back up, my oldest was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 4years old. That is very early, but it was very obvious at the time. He has also been on medication since then and in the past 7 years we have researched, studied and learned everything we can about the situation. He has had more struggles I can count and I have cried buckets of tears over things I have no control over. I have asked "what did I do wrong" or "why him" so many times that I learned to stop and face it HEAD ON. And that we have. Faced it. Owned it and even bragged about it in a way. I grew up in a southern household, we don't hide crazy, we put it on the front porch!
So back to my friends, each one has a different approach....one is accepting (finally) and working with doctors to find the right meds and behavioral plan for her son. She has her husband on board and they are working with their son to help him learn to work with his abilities not to focus on the disability. She called me to ask for other methods to help and I gave her tons of advice on diet and that food is the hardest struggle with a medicated child. I gave her hints and tips with self esteem and confidence and rewards for the good things they do. We talked for hours and I had such a happy heart knowing I was helping a parent to avoid some of the struggles I have had to deal with.
When I talked to my other friend the conversation was totally different and the way I handled it totally shocked my husband! I am not one to hold back and I had finally had with this friend burying her head in the sand. She stopped me at school to ask if mine was having a good first week of school as she had already been called twice and was having a meeting with the teachers to discuss his behavior issues. She was exasperated and feeling at a loss over the situation. When she confirmed she had finally had him diagnosed with ADHD my next question was, which med is he on? She said he wasn't on any because she was scared of side effects, specifically the food issue. When I started talking to her about this I pointed out there are non-stimulant meds, what the meds were for and how to overcome the side effects. She looked at me like I had a third eye ball growing out of my head. She had no idea what I was talking about. This is when I finally got frank with her and told her to go home and do some research because she was not facing it head on and accepting the truth. It was time to get real and HELP HER CHILD! She doesn't even have a good understanding what the real situation is and doesn't understand what ADHD truly is.
I understand that many people do not agree with me about ADHD. BUT I HAVE LIVED IT FOR 7 YEARS! I have seen the good and the very, very bad and open to discussing it with anyone who asks! I will tell the truth about my child and how we have managed things but I do it to help others. IF your going to ignore it and not step up and protect your child then don't ask me about mine.It's not a dirty little secret in our house and I have gone to battle with family members and teachers to make sure my child gets what he needs.
Medication is not the answer for everyone, I agree with that but it is and has been for my son. He has improved at school considerably over the years even with his struggles.He doesn't get in trouble at school and I don't get phone calls about aggressive behavior and defiance. He is taking control of himself on his own and is learning the cues to know when something isn't right for him. He knows he is loved and is learning to embrace his abilities not focusing on the disabilities. He wears his ADHD label like a badge of honor and is proud of himself when he overcomes an obstacle. He is NOT GIVING UP!
So if your wondering why I jumped on my soapbox this morning, here is why. Research, learn and step up for your child. They are the ones living with these many things and diagnosis and they are not in a position to fight for themselves. BE their advocate and DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO HELP THEM BE SUCCESSFUL. There are TONS of resources out their and I will be happy to help anyone who needs it.
But don't ask me if you don't want an honest answer because it will not always be what you want to hear.
That is what I hear when it has been a few days since I have called my mother. She pretends to not know me and makes me go through the whole thing explaining who I am. No,she doesn't have alzheimers, she just likes to point out how long it's been since she heard from me.
I am guessing you are feeling the same way my mother does...
Where does the time go? The last time I posted was FEBRUARY! This is crazy....I mean seriously, it's not like I have anything better to do....you know, just running the three kids around, working, cooking, cleaning (yes Titan Boy I DO know what a vacuum is) and just living life.
I pinky swear I will start catching this blog up on all that is happening in Tahoeland soon!